Change is Inevitable. Growth is Optional.

Good Morning! As I sit here in reflection with my coffee and my dog listening to the blustery weather of hurricane Nicole, I am embarking on some change. This change will require some growth.

I have not blogged much as of late because of some current life circumstances in my family that have created an unexpected detour in my life that is demanding more of my attention. It has completely altered my life and need for some change. It’s not my first rodeo with life’s curveballs and I am supremely better at navigating them than I have been in my past, where I spent utterly too much time trying to control things that felt out of control in my life. Part of this peace despite it rests in my faith in God, some of it is wisdom in a life lived 56 years, but a lot of it is learning to grow in the change.

Along with my current circumstances, I also feel the need to improve my blog and need to make changes to the hosting site and what I offer here. This change will all bring much needed growth but will require some time. It will hopefully also bring more organization to my food section and the ability for you to subscribe to my site and get email updates to my posts. My goal is to post weekly. For now, I appreciate those who follow along and support me as I change and grow. 🌸 With that in mind, here are some thoughts for today that I hope may help you on your journey, whatever that may be.

CHANGE

Change can be scary but sometimes growth comes from doing and going into the unknown, which can be scary. Its like our brain doesn’t have a GPS for how to go where it hasn’t gone, so it freaks out. Change can also be painful and although it may be painful, that is not nearly as painful as staying the same, in the same state, which is a state where you don’t belong or want to be physically or emotionally. The funny thing is, sometimes we might think we are stuck in this place with no way out, with no way to change things, but that’s absolutely not true. We are never stuck. We are either getting better by growing or getting worse by remaining in the same place and doing nothing, which isn’t the same as being still, by the way. Being still can be a growth process, too.

Growth is like taking trip. One thing I’ve learned is not to take old baggage on a new trip.  One must consider, “Is what I am taking on my trip appropriate for the journey?”  Is it outdated, worn out, or simply not serving me in the useful way it once did? ​Feelings are like that. If I have a new goal but keep using the same attitudes or mental scripts that failed me in the past, it is not useful. If I approach my new goal with fear, doubt, regret, anger, or sorrow for what once was, it keeps me looking the wrong direction. I don’t need to be upset about the past or my “previous trips” that perhaps didn’t get me to my ultimate destination because it’s never for nothing if I learn and grow.

What are your goals? Do you have something you are trying to achieve? Does it feel or seem difficult? What is getting in your way from achieving it? Is it someone, something, or maybe yourself? Maybe it’s just time for a new trip instead of going around the same mountain over and over again. Don’t worry about where you have been. Your old trip wasn’t a waste of time. What’s done is done. Don’t waste time ruminating about what’s past, whether it’s reminiscing about a better time in your life or ruminating about past failures. It’s time for a fresh start! Believe you will get there! Pack new bags, get new supplies, get a better GPS or route for your destination and goal and trust that you CAN and will make it!

As you press on, I hope you find this song a comfort. It has brought much needed comfort to me. May God bless you today. 🙏🏻